Mind and Spirit Blog

“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.’”

“I have been through some terrible things in my life, some which actually happened.”

~Mark Twain

Most of us waste endless amounts of time being upset by interactions we have with others that are often just misunderstandings.  Stressful thoughts create stress in the emotions and the body.  Feeling good is a lot easier when we have trained our minds to observe and respond versus react to things that are unpleasant for us.  Don Miguel Ruiz wrote a beautiful book called The Four Agreements which brings the readers awareness to common pitfalls we get fall into when communicating with others.  I have summarized the agreements below and added a mindful affirmation to help you ease up on yourself and increase your self-compassion.  Practice the agreements for just one day and notice how you feel!  They are wonderful guidelines for a happy life.

Agreement 1:  Be Impeccable with Your Word:  “Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean.  Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.  Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.”

Mindful Affirmation:  “I love and value myself; I talk to myself and others with kindness and compassion”

Agreement 2:  Don’t Take Anything Personally:  “Nothing others do is because of you.  What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.  When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”

Mindful Affirmation:  “I let go of what other people think of me and focus on my uniqueness with love and respect”

Agreement 3:  Don’t Make Assumptions:  “Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstanding, sadness, and drama.  With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.”

Mindful Affirmation:  “I freely and easily express myself to others”

Agreement 4:  Always Do Your Best:  “Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.  Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.”

Mindful Affirmation:  “My personal best is good enough”


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